The SOVA Project is happy to feature this blog post written by one in our team of fantastic SOVA Ambassadors—these are young people who help create meaningful blog posts from adolescents’ perspectives. We hope you can use their post to start a conversation with your adolescent.
We had recently found out my grandma was sick. Unfortunately, she passed away about three weeks ago. It’s been hard for me. I was really close with her, and I’ve also never had a loved one die before.
In a way I feel guilty, because once she was getting worse, I told myself I wasn’t going to see her because I didn’t want my last memory of my grandma to be of her dying. Watching her in the two to three month span really was eye-opening. I swear every day she needed help with something new, and it made me sad to watch her struggle.
All I can think about is the upcoming holidays and how they won’t be the same without her there. We are having a memorial coming up to celebrate her life, but I’m nervous to go, I don’t want to be sad. I don’t cope well, I just seem to pretend things aren’t real or aren’t happening and then it’ll hit me all at once.
Have you had a loved one pass? Do you remember the first time you’ve had a loved one pass? What about your child? What advice did you share with your child if you had a death in the family? How would you talk to your child about death?