What is self-care?

The SOVA Project is happy to feature this blog post written by one in our team of fantastic SOVA Ambassadors—these are young people who help create meaningful blog posts for us to share.


You may have heard the term “self-care” being used on social media or in interactions with other people. It’s an idea that has only recently become popular.

I have seen arguments both for and against self-care. Some people believe it’s a selfish fad that emphasizes narcissistic behaviors and attitudes, because of the focus on “self.” But if you think about it, a lot of people our age, especially girls, have been trained to take care of other people before we take care of ourselves.

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One primary purpose of self-care is to set boundaries, recharge yourself, and establish disciplines that help you be happier, more relaxed, and better able to function in your relationships with other people.

I have anxiety that is present pretty much all the time. In order to be the best person I can be, I have adopted self-care practices to help me let go of some of that anxiety at the end of each day.

So, what exactly is self-care?

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Why She Quit Social Media

The SOVA Project is happy to feature this blog post written by one in our team of fantastic SOVA Ambassadors—these are young people who help create meaningful blog posts for us to share.

The internet is not going anywhere—there is no doubt that it’s an essential part of our lives. The online world can make our lives more convenient—it gives us the means to communicate efficiently, purchase anything we want, and access our favorite forms of entertainment with a click of a button.

However, like most tools, the internet can help or hurt us, depending on how we use it.

When I was using social media compulsively, it had many more hurtful qualities than helpful ones. Apps such as Snapchat and Instagram were especially hurtful to me and people I knew when we used them without limits. When using them that way, it was hard to resist the feeling that other people’s opinions are extremely important. This attitude toward social media has caused many young adults to live with Instagram constantly in the back of their minds, with every other thought being what they should post next. That’s obsessional use. Continue reading Why She Quit Social Media

Prioritizing Yourself

The SOVA Project is happy to feature this blog post written by one in our team of fantastic SOVA Ambassadors—these are young people who help create meaningful blog posts for us to share.

One of the most important things I have learned on my mental health journey is that it’s okay to be self-centered. In fact, you NEED to be self-centered to some degree. It’s so easy to get caught up in the lives of everyone around you and lose sight of your own path.

At the beginning of 2018, I decided to make myself the focus of this year. While this doesn’t mean I neglect my friends and family, it does mean that I stop breaking my back doing things that don’t bring me joy. Here are some of the important steps I’ve taken to accomplish this goal:

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Self-care: Sleep matters, too!

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How can we take care of others if we don’t—or won’t—take care of ourselves?

Flight attendants instruct us that, in the event of crisis, we must put our own oxygen masks on before trying to help anyone else. It seems counterintuitive, but it’s so true! Self-care is all about accepting ourselves and being grateful for what we have—rather than always wanting things faster, better, more.

One simple but important component of taking care of ourselves is taking care of our sleep.

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Flow: The Secret to Positive Attitude

In his TED talk, world-famous Hungarian psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi asks, “What makes a life worth living?” He emphasizes that money cannot make us happy. That includes holiday gifts or external reassurance that “everything will be okay.” He has studied individuals who find pleasure and lasting satisfaction in activities that bring about a state that he has called “flow.”

The discipline of positive psychology holds that flow—which is sometimes called “being in the zone”—is the state of mind in which you’re totally consumed in an activity, not to achieve perfection or control the outcomes of problems, but just to enjoy the activity for its own sake. 

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Learning to say “No” like a pro!

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I’m a people-pleaser all the way through. Not only do I have my own activities that I like to participate in, but whenever I am asked for help, I always say “Yes!” and “Of course!” I never really thought about it as a problem, as I always told myself that I worked better under stress. Plus, I made people happy by helping them out with their tasks! So isn’t it a win-win for everyone?

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This year I started to pile on a lot of activities. Many of the things I said “Yes” to actually turned out to be long-term commitments, and now my plate is quite full! Then this fall, I started to feel burnt out. And that’s when it finally hit me:

I can say “No.”

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What Is Digital Self Harm?

Earlier this week we wrote about traditional self-injury behaviors that adolescents engage in, such as burning and cutting. These behaviors are identifiable because they usually leave visible marks on the body. However, as technology advances and more teenagers engage in online activities, a new form of self-harm behavior has emerged: digital self-harm.

Digital self-harm can take on many forms similarly to traditional self-harm.

Adolescents compulsively send themselves hurtful digital messages and disclose demeaning information about themselves online. One result?—peers respond by posting negative comments/messages about the original posters.

A new study found that 6% of the teenagers aged 12-17 in the US engaged in digital self-harm.

Why are teens participating in digital self-harm? …

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Journaling for Growth

According to an article published on Psychcentral.com there are many positive health benefits to keeping a journal and writing in it at least once a day. For example, previous research findings support the idea that a healthy cycle of journaling strengthens immune cells- the cells involved in defending our body against diseases- and even helps to decrease symptoms of asthma.

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A few of the noted benefits from the article include:

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I’m a Better Person Without Social Media

An ambassador on our SOVA site recently wrote about her experience with social media in order to provide some guidance for others who might feel dependent on it. Here’s what she had to say:

In this day and age, social media is the norm. Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, Facebook—we spend so much time on these sites and apps that we don’t always realize the negative effects they can have on us.

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I’m one of those people. Continue reading I’m a Better Person Without Social Media

Self-Care Cards

 Photo Credit: Social Work Core Principles of Trauma-Informed Care
Photo Credit: Social Work Core Principles of Trauma-Informed Care

We came across an article about creating Self-Care Cards for yourself that you can print off, design and slip into your wallet, purse or pocket. These little cards have really good tools on them that can help you through a rough moment.

One of the things I really liked in these cards was the grounding techniques listed.

When having rough moment, it can be hard to come back into the present and your body. Using grounding exercises can help you come back to yourself so that you can calm down mindfully. This can be difficult for adults and even more so for adolescents.

Tell us if you decide to download the cards and make the booklet for yourself or your adolescent! Do you think this is a useful tool? How and where would you use it? How would your adolescent benefit?